Mixed Folks Guest Post – Little Wickies

June 6, 2011 | Comment4 comments - join the party! |

Tell us a little about yourself?

I’m currently a stay-at-home mother of two girls – my Little Wickies. I write professionally when I have the opportunity, which is generally in between driving to ballet class, changing diapers and breaking up sibling squabbles. I thrift but am not crafty. I play soccer. And, I have a penchant for anything produced by Masterpiece Theatre.

How did you meet your other half?

I met my husband my sophomore year in college. He was visiting my neighbor. I thought he was cute. And, when I discovered he was transferring to our school the following year – well, I couldn’t have been happier. About a year and a half after this first meeting we started dating.

What is the funnest part about being in a Interethnic or Interracial Relationships?

I’m 100 percent Chinese, my husband is half Korean and half British Canadian.The best part of our interethnic relationship by far are the little mutts we’ve produced (yes, I just called my children mutts). I also love that they have people in their lives whom they call Grandpa, Halmoni (Korean name for grandma) and Po-Po (Chinese name for grandma). Oh, and food ranks pretty high up there too on a list of multi-ethnic bonuses.

Have there been any challenges?

I’m 5th generation Chinese-American so I’m not as closely tied to my cultural background as other Chinese-Americans which may cut down on some of the friction that may naturally happen between cultures. My family does tend to do things big and grand. It seems in Chinese families everyone including extended family is expected to be invited to everything as opposed to my husband’s family – especially the British Canadian side – which tends to keep gatherings small. For our wedding my mother invited 180+ people. My husband’s dad – no joke – gave me a 3×5 inch card with three people’s names and addresses on it (one of which was him).

Anything you mix up?

Well, my family has a long tradition of serving Chinese food with traditional holiday fare. For example, at Christmas there will usually be dim sum out on the table by 2 or 3 p.m. Then, the ham and/or roast will be served later for dinner. White rice is a must with gravy, stuffing and turkey.

The décor in our house is also a bit of a mix. I have a number of traditional Asian pieces e.g., Korean wooden boxes, foo dogs, vases, and Chinese chairs. They sit along side my antique finds like milk glass vases and pink Arcoroc glasses.

Whats your favorite part about mixing it up?

I believe being in an environment where people look different, sound different, and have different customs is great for learning patience and understanding. While this can certainly be accomplished if your family is not made up of multi-ethnicities, it’s much more in-your-face when you are.

Any tips for making things work?

Just the regular stuff that makes any relationship really work. Listen to each other and pay attention to what other people are doing. I’m a very impatient person by nature but I always have to remind myself that not everyone sees things the way I do, and that’s actually a good thing.


4 comments - join the party!

Love Becky and her family and learning more about them. This is such a great series.

by jen@odbt on June 6, 2011 at 7:06 pm. Reply #

what adorable children– mutts 😉 i giggled!

that's how my family is… we do everything big! lol

such a fun feature, what a beautiful family.

by Micaela on June 7, 2011 at 1:20 am. Reply #

So sweet. Becky is beautiful and so is her family.

by Jenn Kirk on June 8, 2011 at 4:56 am. Reply #

Fun learning about your family Becky!

by Candice on June 10, 2011 at 11:09 pm. Reply #