Mixed Folks Guest Post – Our Daily Big Top

June 8, 2011 | Commentone comment - get your say in! |

Tell us a little about yourself?

I’m a stay-at-home mom to three children and wife to my wonderful husband of 13 years. I blog at Our Daily Big Top…because there are many days when I hear the circus theme music playing the background, mostly in my head 😉 Life is busy with my 10 year son, 8 year old daughter and soon to be turn 6 little (or not so little) boy. I cheer on the sidelines, I volunteer at school, I blog when I can and love to laugh. My kids and my husband help me with that last part. I probably drink too much diet coke and am what my friends call “particular”. I think that’s a nice way to say I’m a little ocd about certain things. I love to take pictures and hope to cultivate my photography hobby. There are days when life has it’s down moments but then there are those upswings that take my breath away. One of my favorite posts quotes Parenthood.

[Gil has been complaining about his complicated life; Grandma wanders into the room] Grandma: You know, when I was nineteen, Grandpa took me on a roller coaster. Gil: Oh? Grandma: Up, down, up, down. Oh, what a ride! I always wanted to go again. You know, it was just so interesting to me that a ride could make me so frightened, so scared, so sick, so excited, and so thrilled all together! Some didn’t like it. They went on the merry-go-round. That just goes around. Nothing. I like the roller coaster. You get more out of it.

So true.

The good, the bad, the not-so-pretty. The ups. The downs. The tears. The laughter. The reality. The surprises.

It’s my roller coaster. I’m on and not letting go.

How did you meet your other half?

I met G at college. He was good friends with the boys who lived upstairs from me in our apartment building. He was my secret crush for at least a year before we started dating but we weren’t really “dating” or we just weren’t being defined as a couple. It’s a long complicated story but here we are 13 years later.

What is the funnest part about being in a Interethnic or Interracial Relationships?

I guess it’s having both access to two cultures. We bring different experiences from childhood as well as traditions that we can talk about and share with our own children.

Have there been any challenges?

I struggle with how to bring more of my culture/ethnicity to our daily life. I didn’t embrace my ethnicity growing up because I wanted to be like everyone else. There was no diversity where/when I grew up. I remember not wanting to stand out. My kids are very lucky that we live in a very diverse part of the country. Many of their classmates are from different cultures but interestingly there aren’t many Filipinos or at least I haven’t met too many. I need to work on that. I think it would be different if my parents lived closer because when my parents visit, the kids get to eat filipino food and learn more about that part of them.

I also worry about when that moment is going to happen to them. That moment being bullied or teased because they are different. It happened to me and I remember what it was like. I’m hopeful that our world today is more accepting of differences.

Anything you mix up?

I have turned my kids into big breakfast eaters on weekends and we’re not talking waffles or pancakes. Breakfast with rice. I think my last meal would be white rice with an over easy egg and sausage. They love it too. So I guess we mix up what is a typical filipino breakfast and have it for any meal of the day.

I also remember growing up that I used tagalog words in kindergarten and didn’t understand why my teacher did not understand me. Unfortunately I don’t speak tagalog fluently but I can understand it no problem. I’ve been having fun telling my kids what the tagalog words are for toot, armpit…

Whats your favorite part about mixing it up?

Hmm. My kids. I look at their beautiful faces and can’t believe how blessed I am. Really. They are a beautiful mix of the two of us.

Any tips for making things work?

Listen. Laugh. Love. My husband reminds me of the first two all the time. He’s such a great guy.

Anything else you want to share?

Thanks Kelli for reaching out and putting together this series. What I love about the www is finding other mix up families like ours. I can’t wait to meet others who are in mixed race marriages.


one comment - get your say in!

Always love learning more about what's going on under the big top! Such a great family.

by Becky on June 9, 2011 at 8:19 pm. Reply #